Etiquette, Chivalry & Protocol

Homecoming, Court Warming, and Prom! I’m a Freshman in a small private school, so I haven’t experienced too many dances quite yet.  Our school doesn’t host many dances; they do however require one year of Protocol.  Below is Merriam-Webster’s definition of protocol.

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Etiquette & chivalry seem to be a lost art in todays fast paced society filled with cell phones and computers.  From the words we use, acknowledging people for kindness, looking someone in the eye, knowing how to shake hands with someone, making small talk, to basic table manners it’s all a reflection of our true selves.  People without manners are like beautifully wrapped packages that are empty inside.

At my school, we are required to take an etiquette class prior to Protocol. In this class ladies and gentlemen each learn how to act around each other in a formal setting.

I wasn’t in the boys class, but I’ve heard the boys learn how to be chivalrous (open doors for the girls, pulling out their chairs for them, stand when they get up from the table, etc.) as well as table manners.

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The girls learn  proper posture for walking  appropriately in heels, table manners, how to make small talk, and modesty.

For example, did you know when you walk in high heels you are NOT supposed to look down at the floor the whole time you’re walking?  Or, that when eating dinner, you begin with placing your napkin in your lap?

Once we have perfected these traits we then attend Protocol.  Much like a high school dance girls wear semi-formal dresses (that are modesty approved) and the boys wear suits.  I loved shopping for my dress.  It was exciting to see that I could find a GREAT dress that still met the modesty rules of the school.

The night of Protocol begins with our dads escorting us to a reception at our school.  We are then paired with different classmates, and are expected to use appropriate etiquette throughout the evening.

After the reception the students are escorted, via limousine, to a fancy hotel for dinner.  Once we arrive, we sit down and eat a four course meal. Throughout all of this, we are cautiously trying to perfect our manners!

I quickly realized that the problem with learning etiquette is that I now notice when people do not use their manners.  I guess you could say my standards have risen considerably, but maybe that was the point?!?

Protocol is 3-weeks away.  I had a delicious Valentine’s Day dinner at home with my family.  To make it more fun and special we decided to set a formal table and practice for Protocol.  I snapped a quick photo of the food for you all to see (I’m not sure taking the photo was appropriate protocol), but I couldn’t resist.

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I’ll post photos in a few weeks of our school’s Protocol.


1 Peter 3:3-4

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.


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